Have you ever heard someone say, “kids are so resilient”? This is a phrase I hear all the time, but as someone who has worked closely with children for over twenty years, I really question this phrase. Are children actually resilient? And what factors impact a child’s resilience? In my practice, I’ve noticed that many children are so hard on themselves when it comes to the smallest things. When a child makes a mistake (even a small one) they are full of disapproval and disappointment towards their own self and when they do do something correctly, they can’t even allow themselves to feel excited.
We need to break this pattern or it will eventually penetrate every aspect of that child’s life. This self-judgement that kids are experiencing may just start as an academic issue, but can eventually impact a child in other ways including their social and emotional well-being. Ou brains are designed to love learning. If a child is so hard on themselves that they don’t enjoy learning, this should be a red flag. What has happened to them that they are pulling away from learning rather than running towards it? In this episode I’ll talk about some of these factors and also share some hope for the parent whose child is struggling to enjoy school and seems to be beating themselves up for the smallest things.
In this episode, we cover:
- Are kids really resilient?
- Why kids are so hard on themselves and why we need to break this pattern now
- Why a child who doesn’t enjoy school should raise a red flag
- Things that influence how easy it will be for a child to learn
- Struggles faced by adopted kids
- Creating new opportunities out of disappointment
- Teaching kids to get “unstuck”
- Meeting kids where they’re at
- Hitting developmental milestones is necessary
- We need to listen to our kids
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Why is this happening to my kid and what can I do about it? If you’re the parent of a developmentally delayed child, you’ve probably asked this question more than once. That’s where I come in! I’m Dr. Laura Hanson and I specialize in identifying the “why” and telling you the “what.” Join me every Thursday for a deeper look at how our brains are wired and how to get the most out of your mind. Are you looking to break negative patterns, overcome mood disorders, or optimize your potential? Maybe your child struggles with ADHD, OCD or other learning difficulties. Tune in to Connect My Brain, where I explain concepts like biofeedback and neurofeedback, brainwave frequencies, and much more. Let me help you change your life by changing your mind! Contact me HERE.