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Ever wonder why some kids can resist that tempting cookie while others dive right in? Today we are breaking down the fascinating science behind impulse control in children – and it’s not as simple as just saying “no.”
The episode talks about the classic “marshmallow test,” where kids ages 2-4 face the ultimate challenge: eat one marshmallow now or wait for two later. But Dr. Hansen takes us way beyond this simple experiment, showing how a child’s ability to “put on the brakes” actually starts developing before they’re even born. Pretty amazing, right?
Here’s something most parents don’t know: those first movements babies make in the womb are actually laying down important neural pathways for future self-control. And it’s not just about responding to discomfort – these early reflexes react to gentle touches and movement too, showing just how sophisticated baby brain development really is.
For parents wondering how to help their kids develop better impulse control, Dr. Hansen shares some clever, practical tips. Want to teach your kid about self-control? Try using traffic lights as an example, or play red light/green light games. These simple activities actually help build those crucial brain pathways that control impulse regulation.
The really cool thing about this episode is how Dr. Hansen connects the dots between what we see on the outside (like a child grabbing a toy without asking) and what’s happening inside their brain. It’s not just about behavior – it’s about brain chemistry and development.
Whether you’re dealing with an impulsive kiddo or just curious about how little brains develop, this episode delivers practical advice backed by solid science, all wrapped up in easy-to-understand examples that make total sense for real-world parenting.
Topics covered in this episode:
- How kids learn to control their impulses and why their brain development before birth matters more than we thought
- A fun test called the “marshmallow test” where kids have to choose between eating one treat now or waiting for two treats later
- How babies’ natural reflexes in the womb help build the brain pathways they’ll need later for self-control
Resources mentioned:
- The Marshmallow Test on YouTube
- Postnatal temporal spatial and modality tuning of nociceptive cutaneous flexion reflexes in human infants
- Download the Connect My Brain app on Apple or Google Play (it’s free!)
- Learn more about Courses & Resources at Connect My Brain!
- Download Dr. Laura’s guide to Developmental Milestones
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More about Connect My Brain:
Why is this happening to my kid and what can I do about it? If you are the parent of a developmentally delayed child then you’ve probably asked this question more than once. That’s where I come in! I’m Dr. Laura Hanson and I specialize in identifying the “why” and telling you the “what.” Join me every Thursday for a deeper look at how our brains are wired and how to get the most out of your mind. Are you looking to break negative patterns, overcome mood disorders, or optimize your potential? Maybe your child struggles with ADHD, OCD or other learning difficulties. Tune in to Connect My Brain, where I explain concepts like biofeedback and neurofeedback, brainwave frequencies, and much more. Let me help you change your life by changing your mind! Contact me HERE.
